Watch Out!

Watch Out!
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Watch out because my fingers are hot and I just started to pound on my keyboard's keys.

I feel bad for my computer because the computer is what takes my beating after my frustrations.

Man, will I ever learn. Or should I say...

How can I cope with this?

I just finish watching the Movie "Heartbreaks" and I felt so bad for the guy at the beginning of the movie. I guess I felt that way because it resembles me and what I go thru.

How can a woman work a guy up so bad? Get him so sexually hot until the point of erotic explosion and then let him go.

Yes, let him cold turkey.

Can they see that moments like that are the most vulnerable moments for any guy?

How can you expect that in moments like this, he is not going to cheat if other woman takes the opportunity of this weakness?

And then she blames him for cheating!

I'm sorry if I sound frustrated. I'm just trying to understand the mentality after this madness.

It's almost like getting a meal in front of a hungry Lion and waives it in its face. Not give the Lion the meal but taunting him with it, and at the end taking the meal away.

Am I starting to make sense here?

If someone has the misfortune of falling inside this Lion's cage, do not expect the Lion not to eat the person!!!!

And the bad thing is that this same Lion gets shot dead because of something that is not his fault. If the caretaker would just give the Lion his meal, then the misfortune would not had happen.

Well what I am trying to say is the same thing as the Lion story I just told. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying the cheating is good in any shape of form. Just like the Lion eating that person is not good. But can this woman understand that she should not play with the Lion's appetite any longer and expecting not to eat another woman and then blame him for cheating.

I am not a cheater nor will I ever be one, but boy I sure understand cheaters now...

Cold showers and ice can only go so far! There would be a moment when the Lion can not take his urges anymore and the inevitable will happen.

You'll make a cheater out of an honest man!!!

"I am Sci-Fi"

Candela
Originally uploaded by cand3la.

I just wanted to say that I love everything Sci-fi. From movies to books and even conversation. I can easely follow any conversation about any sci-fi topic.

I think this started when I was very young. Since I can rememer I have been drawn to watch any sci-fi material. I remember that I found such materials extremely facinating.

I remember watching:

1- "Space 1999"
2- "Buck Rogers"
3- "Battlestar Galactica"
4- The original "Star Trek"
5- "The Time Tunnel"
6- "The Thunderbird"
7- "Astroboy"
8- "Mazinger Z"
9- "Lost In Space"

among others...

I remember getting out of school and rushing home to catch the next episode of "V".

I believe that a good dose of Sci-Fi a day is good for everyone. It is an easy escape from the day to day hassle and stress. It helps you escape for just a little bit from reaity and in doing so gives you a mini break or vacaton. It helps you disconnect and relax. Now I am talking about what I called Sci-Fi, beause many people include Horror as Sci-Fi. Even though technically it is Sci-Fi, I exclude this from the category.

So read a good book, or watch a good movie, escape from reality...

Torn City

I was browsing the web the other day when I found this cool site. Torn City http://www.torncity.com/register.php?XID=29537

This is an online game but it's tex base. Its kind of cool. It's just like any other RPG but only text.

Check it out and tell me what do you think about it.

Cand3la's Forums

Wow, I just finish creating my forum page after a ugly crash of my server.

I am please of the results so far. I was so upset because I lost the back up of my previous forum so I have to start fom scratch. Bummer.

Oh well, I like how it is turning out so far.

The addy is http://cand3la.phpbbweb.com

If anyone wants to register, please let me know so I can give you the appropriate permissions.

Cool.

Cand3la Banner

Cand3la Banner
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I found a couple of my old photos hidden away on my network drive.

If you click on my Flickr Photo links below, you'll find them.

It's like finding hidden trasure. I even found my old website among the dust and moth.

Man, Am I really a digital rat pack? Some times I feel that way because of the kind of stuff I find hidden away on my hardrives.

I am the only one that thisngs like this happen to?

Candela The Cowboy

Candela The Cowboy
Originally uploaded by cand3la.

Did you know that once I was a cowboy?

I typically go thru my music phases. Eight years ago I got really deep into country music.

I listen to a lot of country music. I had the hat, boots and clother to match. I don't regret it.

I still love country music, is just that it was one of my phases.

My current phase is Merengue Music.

Latin Flavor...

Cand3la Invitation to his Wine

Cand3la Invitation to his Wine
Originally uploaded by cand3la.

I really love wine. My favorite wines are Italian wines. I can not get enought of Pinot Grigio wine.
I love the Bella Sera label. I don't claim to be an expect on wines, I am just a simple man who enjoys the flavor.

Wow, I have hightlights on that picture!!!

Cand3lasville in your Flavor?

Check it out!

I just added links to Cand3lasville in different languages.

I'm sorry If you do not see yours.

Enjoy.

Can we be happy?...

Are you happy with the life you are living?

Shouldn’t we all be happy?

Have you taken a good look at how things are going for you at the current moment?

Shouldn’t we have the right to choose what makes us happy in live?


I think a person has a right to make changes in order to bring happiness in their lives.


So why is it that this task is so difficult for some of us?


I don’t claim to have the answers to these questions. I just think that if we are aware of the questions then we might work towards getting the answers.

How can you provide an answer if you do not know the question?

If we take a deep look into our inner self then maybe, just maybe we will have an idea of what makes us unhappy. To be able to find our happy trigger.

Is it possible to be happier by helping other to be happy?

I think so.


I have found myself many times smiling after:

A stranger has been smiling at me for some time.
Or after someone holds the door for me.


It seems as if this is a contagious thing!

So, why couldn’t we just smile a little more in order to make more people smile?

I hope that since it is a contagious thing then maybe just maybe we can get enough people to smile. Hold doors. And eventually the world could be a happier place.

Don’t you agree?

Next time see are out in public, Smile.

Who knows?

You might make someone’s day!

Reality?!?!?

Have you ever sit down and think about what is reality?

Yes, you might ask me, what kind of question is that. You might even say to me that I have gone mad.

But seriously, how you ever pay attention to reality?
What is reality?
How do you know what is reality?

Is not like someone has sit down with us and explain what it is.

Don’t we live in our minds?

Our mind is the interpreter to all electrical impulses. If reality is our minds interpretation of the electrical reactions resulting from our senses then How do we know what is really our there?

How do we know when those electrical impulses have fail and gave us the wrong conception of a specific reality?

How do we know that we are not just blobs of gas floating around instead of flesh and bones?

Our minds very easily create our senses. Our minds could very easily create the visual of our body for us. It could create the daily aromas, the feelings, and many other things.

With that in mind, how do we know that a particular reality is (or is not) the same as someone else’s reality?

How do we know that what for me is color blue could really be red to someone else.

Is there really a way to find out?

This might be the reason why we have interpretations pollution.

Have you ever known a particular subject so well that you could talk about it in your sleep. Suddenly you are call into do a seminar on that subject. The day arrived and you gave the best speech ever given on the subject. Your speech was the most clearly spoken speech on the subject ever given. Then you pull some random people from the seminar and get their impression of the seminar. Guess what! I’ll bet you that you will get so many different conceptions of your speech that it will depress you. All of the sudden you feel that you are a failure because as a speaker you fail to convey the clear message you were set out to convey.

This is exactly what I am talking about. We could be living a specific reality but this could be a complete different reality for another.

So please keep this in mind when you speak with someone today.

"I See Blog People"

What is the fascination with Blog?

Everywhere I turn I find blogs. I find blogs about any and every topic imaginable. Blogs about cars, babies, houses, companies, products, and more...

It's a Blog revolution!

It amazes me the fascination people have with blogs, but I think the most important aspect of blogging is its therapeutic properties.
Just imagine that you have a bad day at work. You come home but you don't want to bother anyone with your frustrations since everyone has their very own problems. Before you would keep these thoughts in your head and eventually you would get so irritated that it would get you in a bad mood. It is very important to vent all your frustrations out. If you don't vent it out then your mood could get worse and worse.

Now in a blogging world, you could write all your frustrations in a Blog. You just sit on your computer chair and type away your thoughts. You don't have the normal worries you would have when you talk to a person because no one is there.

Just you and your Blog!

You will be amaze of how you will feel after you vent on a Blog.

So my advice for all of you is that instead of getting mad at the wrong person, just open your Blog and type away. You will feel liberated.

And this way we can see more and more Blog people everywhere...

Cand3la on Happiness...

I love this time a year when everyone is just a little nicer. What is it about this time a year that causes this effect on everything? I know that this does not apply to everyone. There will always be a runt on the bunch, but in general this is my normal perception on this season. Could it be that it's because is a little cooler in temperature? Research has proven that the hotter the temperature, the more aggravated people get, and just a little hornier I might add.

I had my very first encounter with this when the last hurricane past thru here. We lost electricity and because of this there was no air conditioning. Man, talk about been irate. Thanks God that the electricity got fix when it did because one more day and we would have killed each other. Due to this I feel that the temperature in the season has something to do with everyone's mood.

For the big majority of people is the meaning of the holidays. Even though they could really get frustrated at times, for these people it all pays up at the end. These people really enjoy the festivity that this celebration brings. Could it be the contemplating of faces upon receiving a gift? Could it be the happiness of a child when they open their present?

Why can people learn from this? Happiness is a very infectious thing.

Some people feel that they can get anything they want just because they demand it. Can they understand that been nice could get you farther? I could be that it was not your fault and you feel really angry at the other person. But just remember that rage is also contagious and where would you end up if the other person and you are mad at each other? Let me tell you: Nowhere!

I have practice this sometimes when I am mad at someone and it is amazing the results that I got. For starters the fight last a lot less. You end up understanding each other. Remember what I always say: “emotions are rational thinking worse enemy.” When you are mad, sad, in love, happy, or any other emotion, your thinking abilities decreases and you could make an irrational decision.

I have ask some store employees from the near by mall and one told me that in one occasion it was the customers fault. Normally that store would send this particular customer packing but just because they were nice the store did what it could for this person. This customer got his item replace for a new one just because they were nice to the employee. Can you see what can get you just been nice?

I believe that the reason why most of us are just a little nicer on the holidays is because it is contagious. It only takes one smile to a stranger to get one back. Don’t believe me? Try!

An in all of this escalation of happiness, everyone gets infected with and eventually we have a happy season.

In conclusion if we want to make this a better world to live in, open doors, smile, be polite, laugh, give without receiving, be happy and over all have love in your heart.

Seasons Greetings!

Been Beautiful vs. Sexy…

Is it possible that our definition of female beauty has become distorted?
Has sexy become synonymous with beauty?

Everywhere I see pictures of fashion and beauty all I see is a sexy woman of some sort. Everywhere I see well dress woman, most of the times I see a sexy person.

When I searched the definition of sexy I found that it means to arouse or tend to arouse sexual desire or interest.
But when I search for beauty I find that it means that is the quality that gives pleasure to the mind or senses and is associated with such properties as harmony of form or color, excellence of artistry, truthfulness, and originality.

As you can see, this words mean something completely different so why is it that for humanity (unconsciously) it has become the same thing?
Considering that man is a visual animal, why would you want to arouse or tend to arouse a sexual desire or interest in a person you don’t know?
By copying the current sexy fashion and wearing it in public, that is exactly what we are doing.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that we should suddenly wear nun clothing. All I am saying is that some people wear such clothes without a notion of what is going on.
For example, what if you are walking down the street wearing such clothes and you happen to walk in front of a sexual offender.

When parents tell their daughters not to wear certain pieces of clothing, we are not trying to be jerks. We are just visualizing these scenarios and in a certain way we are trying to protect or kids.
When you husband gets upset because you are wearing something that he considers inappropriate. He is not trying to be difficult; he is just visualizing these scenarios. Especially if you are going somewhere without your husband and he sees you wearing something he considers unsuitable. In his mind he is thinking about what would be the reasons why you want to arouse a sexual desire in someone other than him.

If you are single you could attract someone been beautiful as good as been sexy. Analyzing this, been beautiful will attract a person because of the beautiful qualities that such person sees in you. Been sexy will attract a person because you are arousing sexual desire. I am not claiming that one or the other is good or bad, but just trying to clarify the difference between the two.
Personally when I see a beautiful person, it brings beautiful feelings in me. In contrast, when I see a sexy person or as some may call HOT woman it brings a strong sexual desire. The more that I talk to male friends, the more I am convince that this is absolutely true. The problem that I have found is that out of all women I have encounter I have not yet discover one that knows the difference between been sexy and been beautiful.

Another problem that I found is that some men are victims when they see a sexy dressed woman. Let me explain. A man might be in a healthy relationship with his love one and when he goes to his office, sees his secretary wearing sexy clothes. Being a man he will naturally have a sexual desire for his secretary which will cause one of two things. If this man values his relationship with his love one that he would have to work harder in mentally represses this sexual feeling. The problem is that not all man are equally strong in this matter and that is the reason why you find some man that eventually cheat on their love ones.

So I guess my advice to you is to please be polite to the visual animal and try not to put him either on the spot or force him to make a decision that might ruin either him or his relationship with his love one.

Sex Scandals Everywhere...

It's kind of funny but anyone can see how sex sells and how everyone tries to hide it. You find sex stories everywhere. One could find such stories in the newspapers, TV, General news among a lot more sources. This is a basic human function.

Why are we denying it?

Why do we not accuse those who adulterated but indict those who are willing to profit from the business? (Which I have to add is a very old line of job.)

I had a conversation with a friend of mine about the subject of cheating. She told me that one of her past boyfriends cheated on her. I then ask if she was ever intimated with him on her relationship and she told me that she barely was.

I have to say that I go on record by saying that I hate cheaters and liars. These kinds of people are liars in their own way. But I do understand why most of them cheat. (And I am talking about those men that do not use their upper brain.)

For a man, intimacy is almost necessary and women do not and I guess will never understand this concept. They might joke about it with girlfriends but they don't seem to understand the concept. And those women who understand this concept are either benefiting from this or are on top of the word getting whatever they please.

You might call them opportunist, those who typically end up marring an old man and getting their wealth. Common sluts might be another name you can typically use. But they are all smart in a way for figuring out this little secret.

Why is it that some women wonder why they can not keep a man? They might say that men are all cheaters. And then they can stand up and say that sex is not everything, and that they barely had any intimacy in the latter part of their relationships.

I am not saying that sex is everything but if it wasn't a big part of everything then why is it a multi-million dollar industry?

Why is it that most major technology has seen sex in some way?

Why is it that a nonentity becomes a superstar when sex is involved?

You want examples? I can summarize all in one name: Monica.

I think we are all living in denial. I think that we should make a law where adulterers can be criminally charge and prostitution can be a legal occupation.

I am not saying that we shouldn't be careful. All of this could be targeted in a way that our youth is not jeopardized.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we should stop living in denial and start been honest for once.

We should all be living life as it is and not as some of us think it should be.

Stressing Time for Floridians. Is Hurricane Ivan Coming?

Didn’t we just have a two hurricane already?
Now Ivan is on his way here, or at least appears to. This is causing tremendous mental stress to all southern Floridians.
I have this Blog to help me discuss my feelings about this hurricane season but some people have nothing. People don’t realize it but you need to talk about all hurricane related stress. If you don’t then you could easily go insane. Find a friend, neighbor or just anyone to talk about your hurricane frustrations.
Last time I check the National Hurricane Center, Ivan was getting ready to hit Jamaica. Then it would have to go though Cuba before it hits us, if it does hit us.
Is this a false sense of security?
Charley sort off followed the same path as Ivan. But Ivan appears to be stronger than the others. One thing is for sure, you can never be too careful. Even if this hurricane does not hit us, it will be a good Idea to prepare for it. I am getting ready for it myself. I’m buying can foods and placing the hurricane shutters on all my windows.
Let’s all just hope for the best.

My Celica...

I am a Toyota Celica loves. Here is a picture of the Celica that I own.

I don't currently drive it but I do want to fix it up. This one is a 1990 Toyota Celica ST.

Only the second design change made to the whole line since the 80's.

My Favorite Motocycle

This is my favorite bike. A Kawasaki Ninja 250.
I am thinking on buying one real soon. Some people have told me that this is a sissy bike. But you know what? I really don't care. It sound wierd but I don't like fast motocycles. I like scooters, so they way I look at it is that my Ninja will be a glorify Scooter.

I was surprice though to find that the Ninja 250 has a big web following. So I guess I'm not alone after all.

Do you think is a bad Idea?

Topic change for my Blog? Maybe.

I can not believe that it has been so long that I have not written on this blog pages. I apologize to my faithful readers that my brain had absolutely no activity in this lapse of time.

Nah, don't you all worry. I was not in a coma or anything like that. I think that my lifestyle has actually done this. Three jobs and a house full of kids and when I sit down to write then we get two hurricanes. Yes, two not one. And possibly one more (Ivan).

I will like to take this opportunity to say a very special good bye to Charley and Frances. So long and never comeback!

And to Ivan, Don't you dare even come close. Keep away!

Now that I got that out of the way, let me tell you about my writing intention for this Blog. My intention in writing my blog was to express my bottle-up feeling in a written form. Just like a therapeutic journal. I have since then re-thought and now I wish to stray just a little the intention to write in this Blog. Now I wish to express my deepest feelings in a general form.

What do you mean? You ask.

Well, what I mean is to express all my opinions, as far fetch as they might be, in a written form. You will find some of the most controversial subjects explicated in my particular point of view. Views like sex, violence, ethics and more. All of these described and explained as they exist inside my head. Hold on because it's not a pretty site inside here.

If you like, add your commends as to which topics you will like me to discuss next.

Thanks.

Why do human have to have a fight in order to have change?

You would think that human beings are intelligent mammals. What do they say? Intelligence is what separates us from the animals. But in some occasions we act worse than animals themselves. Why is it that when something happen between to parties, the faster most likely route to take is the path to conflict? And what is this about diplomacy? Don’t get me wrong. I’m not taking about politics. As a matter of fact I hate even the word. I’m talking about the fake attempt to resolve a conflict without having the best interest at hand.

In general, when most human beings do something, usually it is done with their own interests at hand. If this action is done in a matter that does not fit the conception of a well done action for the order human being, then it is taken as a symbol of personal attack. Then the conflict starts.

Can we all realize that we all have a different conception of reality? What for some is consider a well done deed, others take it as the most wretched action in the face of this earth.

We need to start using the one thing that separates us from the animals in order to behave better than they do. We need to start using our brains. We need to start thinking to realize that we all as individuals also have individual thoughts. Each one of our brains is like a complete different planet. How do we know that what is blue for someone is not really black to another? What kind of proof do you have to support this idea? Have you gotten inside their brain and see the color with you own eyes thru their eyes?

When in a conflict, realize that for the other person the actions you took are wrong. You would have to explain to this person why the actions you took are right in your thoughts. Hopefully if the two of you are homo-sapiens then you both will understand and come to a compromise. Not that you will ever convince one hundred percent the other person that what you did is right, but that they would understand why it is right to you and it was not intended in malice.

Being in-love vs. loving

   Is there a difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone? 
  
   I honestly thing so! 

   Is this so hard to understand?

   I’m going to try and explain my perception of the differences between these two words. I believe that these two words describe the first two stages in a relationship.

   The first stage is what I have heard being called “Fresh Love”. It’s when the both of you just meet and all stars are flying in the air. Being in-love with someone is not been able to breath without that person. Wanting to give this person a hug and a kiss as soon as you see them.
   Desiring to buy your partner flowers. Going a whole day thinking about this person and counting down the hours until you get to see you love one again. In this stage all the physical contact between the two lovers are almost magical.

   A touch awakens your senses in a way that joy overcomes your whole body.

   A look into each other eyes because a journey never taken, fill with deep emotion and ardor beyond your wildest dreams.

   A hug might make you feel alive again, and without a desire to let go. Because as long as the two of you are intertwined, the world makes sense again and the two of you are one entity.

   A simple kiss will devour you with the red-hot fire of unadulterated passion and with the promise of an intimate interaction. For the duration of this interaction, the two bodies are fuse, turning into one body due to the flames of passion.

   This is what typically happens at the beginning of every relationship.

   In the other hand, when you reach the stage were you love someone, you have deep feeling for a person. All the feelings describe under the first stage are down to a minimal. But everything you do on a daily basis, you might do with your beloved on your mind. Although during this stage, other things are in your mind as well as your beloved.

   Typically this is what happens after the first stage of a relationship is over. The “Fresh Love” stage!

   But is it possible for a couple that one of them might enter the second stage but not the other?

   If this were true then, what would it mean in that relationship?

   Would this bring conflict to a relationship that once was perfect?


Please my dear blog; can you answer this love paradox?