Cand3la on Happiness...

I love this time a year when everyone is just a little nicer. What is it about this time a year that causes this effect on everything? I know that this does not apply to everyone. There will always be a runt on the bunch, but in general this is my normal perception on this season. Could it be that it's because is a little cooler in temperature? Research has proven that the hotter the temperature, the more aggravated people get, and just a little hornier I might add.

I had my very first encounter with this when the last hurricane past thru here. We lost electricity and because of this there was no air conditioning. Man, talk about been irate. Thanks God that the electricity got fix when it did because one more day and we would have killed each other. Due to this I feel that the temperature in the season has something to do with everyone's mood.

For the big majority of people is the meaning of the holidays. Even though they could really get frustrated at times, for these people it all pays up at the end. These people really enjoy the festivity that this celebration brings. Could it be the contemplating of faces upon receiving a gift? Could it be the happiness of a child when they open their present?

Why can people learn from this? Happiness is a very infectious thing.

Some people feel that they can get anything they want just because they demand it. Can they understand that been nice could get you farther? I could be that it was not your fault and you feel really angry at the other person. But just remember that rage is also contagious and where would you end up if the other person and you are mad at each other? Let me tell you: Nowhere!

I have practice this sometimes when I am mad at someone and it is amazing the results that I got. For starters the fight last a lot less. You end up understanding each other. Remember what I always say: “emotions are rational thinking worse enemy.” When you are mad, sad, in love, happy, or any other emotion, your thinking abilities decreases and you could make an irrational decision.

I have ask some store employees from the near by mall and one told me that in one occasion it was the customers fault. Normally that store would send this particular customer packing but just because they were nice the store did what it could for this person. This customer got his item replace for a new one just because they were nice to the employee. Can you see what can get you just been nice?

I believe that the reason why most of us are just a little nicer on the holidays is because it is contagious. It only takes one smile to a stranger to get one back. Don’t believe me? Try!

An in all of this escalation of happiness, everyone gets infected with and eventually we have a happy season.

In conclusion if we want to make this a better world to live in, open doors, smile, be polite, laugh, give without receiving, be happy and over all have love in your heart.

Seasons Greetings!

Been Beautiful vs. Sexy…

Is it possible that our definition of female beauty has become distorted?
Has sexy become synonymous with beauty?

Everywhere I see pictures of fashion and beauty all I see is a sexy woman of some sort. Everywhere I see well dress woman, most of the times I see a sexy person.

When I searched the definition of sexy I found that it means to arouse or tend to arouse sexual desire or interest.
But when I search for beauty I find that it means that is the quality that gives pleasure to the mind or senses and is associated with such properties as harmony of form or color, excellence of artistry, truthfulness, and originality.

As you can see, this words mean something completely different so why is it that for humanity (unconsciously) it has become the same thing?
Considering that man is a visual animal, why would you want to arouse or tend to arouse a sexual desire or interest in a person you don’t know?
By copying the current sexy fashion and wearing it in public, that is exactly what we are doing.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that we should suddenly wear nun clothing. All I am saying is that some people wear such clothes without a notion of what is going on.
For example, what if you are walking down the street wearing such clothes and you happen to walk in front of a sexual offender.

When parents tell their daughters not to wear certain pieces of clothing, we are not trying to be jerks. We are just visualizing these scenarios and in a certain way we are trying to protect or kids.
When you husband gets upset because you are wearing something that he considers inappropriate. He is not trying to be difficult; he is just visualizing these scenarios. Especially if you are going somewhere without your husband and he sees you wearing something he considers unsuitable. In his mind he is thinking about what would be the reasons why you want to arouse a sexual desire in someone other than him.

If you are single you could attract someone been beautiful as good as been sexy. Analyzing this, been beautiful will attract a person because of the beautiful qualities that such person sees in you. Been sexy will attract a person because you are arousing sexual desire. I am not claiming that one or the other is good or bad, but just trying to clarify the difference between the two.
Personally when I see a beautiful person, it brings beautiful feelings in me. In contrast, when I see a sexy person or as some may call HOT woman it brings a strong sexual desire. The more that I talk to male friends, the more I am convince that this is absolutely true. The problem that I have found is that out of all women I have encounter I have not yet discover one that knows the difference between been sexy and been beautiful.

Another problem that I found is that some men are victims when they see a sexy dressed woman. Let me explain. A man might be in a healthy relationship with his love one and when he goes to his office, sees his secretary wearing sexy clothes. Being a man he will naturally have a sexual desire for his secretary which will cause one of two things. If this man values his relationship with his love one that he would have to work harder in mentally represses this sexual feeling. The problem is that not all man are equally strong in this matter and that is the reason why you find some man that eventually cheat on their love ones.

So I guess my advice to you is to please be polite to the visual animal and try not to put him either on the spot or force him to make a decision that might ruin either him or his relationship with his love one.

Sex Scandals Everywhere...

It's kind of funny but anyone can see how sex sells and how everyone tries to hide it. You find sex stories everywhere. One could find such stories in the newspapers, TV, General news among a lot more sources. This is a basic human function.

Why are we denying it?

Why do we not accuse those who adulterated but indict those who are willing to profit from the business? (Which I have to add is a very old line of job.)

I had a conversation with a friend of mine about the subject of cheating. She told me that one of her past boyfriends cheated on her. I then ask if she was ever intimated with him on her relationship and she told me that she barely was.

I have to say that I go on record by saying that I hate cheaters and liars. These kinds of people are liars in their own way. But I do understand why most of them cheat. (And I am talking about those men that do not use their upper brain.)

For a man, intimacy is almost necessary and women do not and I guess will never understand this concept. They might joke about it with girlfriends but they don't seem to understand the concept. And those women who understand this concept are either benefiting from this or are on top of the word getting whatever they please.

You might call them opportunist, those who typically end up marring an old man and getting their wealth. Common sluts might be another name you can typically use. But they are all smart in a way for figuring out this little secret.

Why is it that some women wonder why they can not keep a man? They might say that men are all cheaters. And then they can stand up and say that sex is not everything, and that they barely had any intimacy in the latter part of their relationships.

I am not saying that sex is everything but if it wasn't a big part of everything then why is it a multi-million dollar industry?

Why is it that most major technology has seen sex in some way?

Why is it that a nonentity becomes a superstar when sex is involved?

You want examples? I can summarize all in one name: Monica.

I think we are all living in denial. I think that we should make a law where adulterers can be criminally charge and prostitution can be a legal occupation.

I am not saying that we shouldn't be careful. All of this could be targeted in a way that our youth is not jeopardized.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we should stop living in denial and start been honest for once.

We should all be living life as it is and not as some of us think it should be.

Stressing Time for Floridians. Is Hurricane Ivan Coming?

Didn’t we just have a two hurricane already?
Now Ivan is on his way here, or at least appears to. This is causing tremendous mental stress to all southern Floridians.
I have this Blog to help me discuss my feelings about this hurricane season but some people have nothing. People don’t realize it but you need to talk about all hurricane related stress. If you don’t then you could easily go insane. Find a friend, neighbor or just anyone to talk about your hurricane frustrations.
Last time I check the National Hurricane Center, Ivan was getting ready to hit Jamaica. Then it would have to go though Cuba before it hits us, if it does hit us.
Is this a false sense of security?
Charley sort off followed the same path as Ivan. But Ivan appears to be stronger than the others. One thing is for sure, you can never be too careful. Even if this hurricane does not hit us, it will be a good Idea to prepare for it. I am getting ready for it myself. I’m buying can foods and placing the hurricane shutters on all my windows.
Let’s all just hope for the best.

My Celica...

I am a Toyota Celica loves. Here is a picture of the Celica that I own.

I don't currently drive it but I do want to fix it up. This one is a 1990 Toyota Celica ST.

Only the second design change made to the whole line since the 80's.

My Favorite Motocycle

This is my favorite bike. A Kawasaki Ninja 250.
I am thinking on buying one real soon. Some people have told me that this is a sissy bike. But you know what? I really don't care. It sound wierd but I don't like fast motocycles. I like scooters, so they way I look at it is that my Ninja will be a glorify Scooter.

I was surprice though to find that the Ninja 250 has a big web following. So I guess I'm not alone after all.

Do you think is a bad Idea?

Topic change for my Blog? Maybe.

I can not believe that it has been so long that I have not written on this blog pages. I apologize to my faithful readers that my brain had absolutely no activity in this lapse of time.

Nah, don't you all worry. I was not in a coma or anything like that. I think that my lifestyle has actually done this. Three jobs and a house full of kids and when I sit down to write then we get two hurricanes. Yes, two not one. And possibly one more (Ivan).

I will like to take this opportunity to say a very special good bye to Charley and Frances. So long and never comeback!

And to Ivan, Don't you dare even come close. Keep away!

Now that I got that out of the way, let me tell you about my writing intention for this Blog. My intention in writing my blog was to express my bottle-up feeling in a written form. Just like a therapeutic journal. I have since then re-thought and now I wish to stray just a little the intention to write in this Blog. Now I wish to express my deepest feelings in a general form.

What do you mean? You ask.

Well, what I mean is to express all my opinions, as far fetch as they might be, in a written form. You will find some of the most controversial subjects explicated in my particular point of view. Views like sex, violence, ethics and more. All of these described and explained as they exist inside my head. Hold on because it's not a pretty site inside here.

If you like, add your commends as to which topics you will like me to discuss next.

Thanks.

Why do human have to have a fight in order to have change?

You would think that human beings are intelligent mammals. What do they say? Intelligence is what separates us from the animals. But in some occasions we act worse than animals themselves. Why is it that when something happen between to parties, the faster most likely route to take is the path to conflict? And what is this about diplomacy? Don’t get me wrong. I’m not taking about politics. As a matter of fact I hate even the word. I’m talking about the fake attempt to resolve a conflict without having the best interest at hand.

In general, when most human beings do something, usually it is done with their own interests at hand. If this action is done in a matter that does not fit the conception of a well done action for the order human being, then it is taken as a symbol of personal attack. Then the conflict starts.

Can we all realize that we all have a different conception of reality? What for some is consider a well done deed, others take it as the most wretched action in the face of this earth.

We need to start using the one thing that separates us from the animals in order to behave better than they do. We need to start using our brains. We need to start thinking to realize that we all as individuals also have individual thoughts. Each one of our brains is like a complete different planet. How do we know that what is blue for someone is not really black to another? What kind of proof do you have to support this idea? Have you gotten inside their brain and see the color with you own eyes thru their eyes?

When in a conflict, realize that for the other person the actions you took are wrong. You would have to explain to this person why the actions you took are right in your thoughts. Hopefully if the two of you are homo-sapiens then you both will understand and come to a compromise. Not that you will ever convince one hundred percent the other person that what you did is right, but that they would understand why it is right to you and it was not intended in malice.

Being in-love vs. loving

   Is there a difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone? 
  
   I honestly thing so! 

   Is this so hard to understand?

   I’m going to try and explain my perception of the differences between these two words. I believe that these two words describe the first two stages in a relationship.

   The first stage is what I have heard being called “Fresh Love”. It’s when the both of you just meet and all stars are flying in the air. Being in-love with someone is not been able to breath without that person. Wanting to give this person a hug and a kiss as soon as you see them.
   Desiring to buy your partner flowers. Going a whole day thinking about this person and counting down the hours until you get to see you love one again. In this stage all the physical contact between the two lovers are almost magical.

   A touch awakens your senses in a way that joy overcomes your whole body.

   A look into each other eyes because a journey never taken, fill with deep emotion and ardor beyond your wildest dreams.

   A hug might make you feel alive again, and without a desire to let go. Because as long as the two of you are intertwined, the world makes sense again and the two of you are one entity.

   A simple kiss will devour you with the red-hot fire of unadulterated passion and with the promise of an intimate interaction. For the duration of this interaction, the two bodies are fuse, turning into one body due to the flames of passion.

   This is what typically happens at the beginning of every relationship.

   In the other hand, when you reach the stage were you love someone, you have deep feeling for a person. All the feelings describe under the first stage are down to a minimal. But everything you do on a daily basis, you might do with your beloved on your mind. Although during this stage, other things are in your mind as well as your beloved.

   Typically this is what happens after the first stage of a relationship is over. The “Fresh Love” stage!

   But is it possible for a couple that one of them might enter the second stage but not the other?

   If this were true then, what would it mean in that relationship?

   Would this bring conflict to a relationship that once was perfect?


Please my dear blog; can you answer this love paradox?

When your soul speaks…

After reading this, if you know me this will definitely change you perception of me. If you don’t know me then you will probably get the wrong essence of me. This is because this blog is the written representation of my mental essence. The inner me! It is a collection of unspoken words.
It is kind of scary because when I read it, I see my soul.
I did not think that such a thing was possible.

How can a combination of consonants and vowels in a succession possibly give you even a glimpse of something as abstract as a human soul?

My deduction after reading this blog is that such a though is possible. It is incredible how anyone could put their soul on words.

There is a phrase which I came up with that I always say:

“Emotion is rational thinking worse enemy!”

This is so true because under any kind of emotion, your soul and not your brain is speaking. I am not trying to say that our soul is irrational. All I’m saying is that our soul is what dictates our feelings, when our brain works on trying to adjust us to reality. When someone says to you: "You are acting on impulse", all they are saying is that you are letting your soul do the thinking for your brain. Unfortunately your brain has to do the thinking for you, not your soul. Our soul is what makes us unique, and it is because of our souls that we are each individuals. But is not a good idea to let people hear the voice of our soul.

Every person has a pattern of perception that because of our soul such a pattern it’s different from human being to human being. This is why a color could be white for one person and black for another or the same bible means something for one religion, when it means something completely different for another religion.
When you let your soul speak you can easily get misunderstood. The problem is that it is healthy to let you soul speak. That’s why some of us have a therapist or a best friend. But when you don’t have a therapist or a best friend, it is things like dairies and blogs that make it better for us. Such things allow our soul to speak and let all our frustrations out. Some people are lucky to have very good friends that hear their problems and in some cases help them with their particular dilemmas.

I, on the other hand, even though I know good people that could hear my problems. They are either my family of her family. I could never let my soul speak to them because since they are family, they would take it the wrong way and cause additional problems for me. So as you can see I don’t have the luxury that many of you have and I have to rely on blogs to express my soul. Like I have said in a previous blog, I am glad that I found this blog and the readers of this blog. It is like finding a brand new friend to talk to and hear my predicaments.

Thank you very much for being my very own brand new best friend.

My dear blog!

The Anticipation To A Good Day

I have been so busy at the office today doing all of my reports. When I finish one report, four more reports came rolling down. I feel like I’m going a hundred miles a minute, but I guess that is cool because it makes my whole day go quicker.

It is a good thing my day is going fast since I have a date Saturday night. I already found a nanny to take care of my kids. I am planning to go for dinner and a movie. I haven’t figure out where we are going to eat but I would leave that to my date, being the gentleman that I am. I know she like seafood as well as I do, so we will probably go to one of the nice seafood restaurants in Naples. I am also letting her choose what movie she would like to see. I think she will like to see “A Cinderella Story.”

It’s kind of cool that I like movies that usually females fancy. My friends call them “Chick Flix”. Oh well, I really don’t care what they are call as long as the movie is a good one.

I am real excited about my date. I have the whole night planned out. We will go dine then watch a movie and when we come home, I’ll have candles and roses all over the house. I may have some Barry White’s music playing on my stereo system. I already bought the bottle of champagne so we can spend a little time just cuddling up on the sofa.

Just the two of us!

I just hope that the date goes as planned.
Let me not keep thinking about it.

I’m sure we will have a real good day.

A glimpse of my past

I finally got home from work and I am trying to relax. I don’t have a job tonight so I can relax. In the other hand, I could really use the money. But I guess that my wellbeing is on top of money.

You could not work in bad health!!

My mental state is a different matter all together. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not become crazy. I’m just mentally and emotionally numb.

Sometimes I ask myself, would this last for ever? Am I the only one in this planet that feels that way?
But them a little part of me says,

“Everything will be ok.”

I think everything started when my ex-wife left me. Just try to visualize ten years of marriage, where you thought everything was going wonderful. And then she disappears on you. Then you found out that she was cheating on you all this years, and she left you with two girls. I was out for two weeks. Thank God for my parents! I guess this would be the reason why I feel the way I feel today.
But I don’t want to feel this way. I want to feel again. I want to look at someone, feel the energy developing inside my heart and sense that this person is feeling the same way too.

I know; you don’t have to tell me. You are going to say that I am describing what happens during Fresh Love. That Fresh Love only happens when you just fell in love with someone. That Fresh Love does not last for ever and it will eventually die. Well, life is been cruel to me because this Fresh Love as you call it usually dies with my partners but it is still fresh on my heart as the first day we met.
Why is that? I don’t understand. You might think I am contradicting myself but truly I am not. When I talk about feeling again, I mean to feel for someone and to sense that that someone feels the same way for you.

This is not hard to understand, right?
Is it so difficult to sense when someone feels something for you?
Is this impossible?

Maybe it is, because obviously I do not count for experience, since I obviously did not feel anything coming from my ex-wife.

But I do know one thing for sure, and that is that live will go on, and this planet will keep turning.

Reaching your Goals

Ok, now I’m on my lunch time again, and so far I have accomplished a lot at work. I ate a sandwich made with butter and turkey meat, a Cherry Coke and some chips. I could not help but notice that I am extremely shaky as I looked at my hands grabbing the Coke can. Maybe is all the stress that I am under, maybe because I worked all day yesterday and went to bed late. Or maybe it was the two cups of coffee I had my sugar this morning. I know, I know, I should be cutting down on sugar. Everyone tells me that because my mother has diabetes. I don’t know; I just hope that it goes away soon. I’m just trying to keep my thoughts away from my matters at home.

I have been reading some blogs and this one in particular caught my attention. It was about reaching an unknown dream and in that quest not having the fear to the unknown.

Acquiring your dream without fear!

I have that phrase in my head now, because it has a very profound meaning. Being able to reach all of your dreams will take you on a quest. And on that quest you will not know what is going to cross your path. One think is for sure, you will encounter lots of obstacles. Some will be easy and some will be hart, but what would be the most important obstacles are those which are scary to us. Those are the obstacles that will deposit enough fear on a person in a way that such person has to deviate from the path to reach their goal. Some people, upon reaching this obstacle, panic and quit their quest, and in doing so never reach their goal. These are the quitters and they are the ones that usually regret the choices they had made in their lives.

I guess my message will be to set your site on your objective and if you go after it without fear, you will in turn reach your goal.

Thank you very much Linda for the inspiration.

This Morning at Cand3lasville

It’s the start of a new day and I am already at work. Yesterday I was so tire that I couldn’t write much. I was so tire because after work I got a computer job at a person’s house near my home. That was really nice since I needed the money. People don’t realize it but when you get a new job, your life becomes upside down for a while. At least for a month! You have to adjust to the new paydays and plan you bills accordantly. Next month I should be in a better position since the new job pays me better.

My Day has Ended

Ok, my day has just concluded but in a bad way. I got home and guess what I found more problems.

Why do I even bother?

Instead of dealing with it I should just act upon it. The problem is that by acting upon it would make me a quitter.

Another Day in Cand3lasville

It’s the start a brand new day and I feel like a hamster on a wheel. The good thing is that I like my new job. It’s real cool to be working for a software manufacturer. Well, I hardly see anyone at home anymore. She must like that since she no longer have to put up with me. But I do feel a little lonely.

I am so numb by now. Or maybe I’m just tired. Here I am at lunch in my office and I am looking forward to the time when I am home in front of my computer. How weird is that? I work on the computer all day and then I go home and I find relaxation in front of another computer. I don’t think I can explain that. Everyone tells me that I am crazy. They say that after a long day at work in front of the computer, the least they want to do is sit at home in front of another. There are two things that I find to be relaxing and they are computers and movies. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only weirdo in the face of this planet. Something cool did happen so far today. I found Morgan Webb’s Blog and e-mail address. That is so cool because I have been trying to get an autograph photo of her. When I get home tonight I’m going to read her blog, because here at work I barely have the time. I think I finally grasp the concept of a blog. And I am guessing my definition of one is online log of unspoken words. Wow, I came up with that one all by myself.

***cand3la pads himself on his back***

I have been look through other people’s blogs and it is kind of fun. I guess the blogs make the planet just a little small. You get the feeling that you have a lot in common with other people.

My Love Life

Why can I have a good relationship?
I am in general what I have read that a woman wants. I have a good job; I am dedicated, never cheated, and very romantic. I would always have flowers for them. Wake up in the morning and I would say I love you.
I think that my problem is that I have a high sex drive. It gets me upset because all the girls that I have dated at the beginning they tell me that they will never let me out of bed, and then it gets old. Then they tell me that all men are like that. Why don't they listen? My philosophy in life is to always tell the truth!!! What I say I mean. Eventually all my romance is gone from her side. The problem is that I still feel the same way I felt from the beginning of the relationship. So I am left high and dry. I fell like hugging and kissing my partner but I always get rejected.
I totally HATE rejection. For that I would stay single and approach all women. Is thinking this way wrong? I still have these feeling for her, but I cannot even touch her. Every time I mention about leaving, she says that she is trying to change. But I still feel this way. Why is life so complicated? I believe that if you really want something, then you would do what ever is necessary to obtain it, what ever that might be. If she really wants me, why she doesn't do what it takes to keep me? I fell like I'm about to give up. Even sex is not the same. Virtually non-existent.
I am so sexually frustrated that I can even listen to my favorite music when it contains sexual innuendos, or my favorite movies if they have sexual situations. Don’t get me wrong; it is not all about sex. I sometimes feel like I want to cuddle together and maybe watch a movie. Maybe go and walk the beach together. Touch her face. Look into her eyes and tell her how much I love her and the kiss her with all the passion that I have inside. Just that, the touch and the kiss; but when I approach her, she pulls away and tells me an excuse. I am so tire of excuses. With all the excuses I have heard, I could make a book.
You have no idea how many times I have sit a though, would it be better for us if I left? The other day she told me that I could have a sexual fling anytime I want to with anyone I please as long as she doesn’t know about it and I come home after. Me have a fling? Believe me that the though have crossed my mind. It’s a guy dream that the person they are with would give them the green light to have sex with anyone they would please. But even if I wanted, no woman out there would want to have sex with me after finding out that I am in a committed relationship (committed. I wonder about the meaning of the word). But my better judgment tells me that such actions would make me the person that I hate the most, A LIAR! A CHEATER! All of the sudden I could become my ex-wife, A CHEATER, A person who left me for another. We have such a good sex live together that in the past she had call me to have sex with her. I had always refuse because I find such a though, repulsive. I just hope that I could make the right decision or I will surely go insane. Can anyone out there understand? Or this is just me? I am pleased to be able to use this blog to vent out all my frustrations.

My Work Day

It's 6:40 p.m. and I'm at my second job. I never had two jobs in my live, so his feels wierd.
I'm kind of glad about my new job. I can't believe I'm getting double the pay as my previous job. I'm also glad I kept my previous job as a part time; I am really looking forward to having two paychecks. I do feel a little tired now but I usually make it up by Wednesday. I feel like a polar bear because I sleep from 5:30 p.m. until the next day.

The Beginning

I’m not quite sure what is a blog but I’m going to make an attempt on creating one. I know that this is somewhat related to a writing log or diary. Since I like writing then I guess I could like this.
 
Can someone help me define what a Blog is?