Being in-love vs. loving

   Is there a difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone? 
  
   I honestly thing so! 

   Is this so hard to understand?

   I’m going to try and explain my perception of the differences between these two words. I believe that these two words describe the first two stages in a relationship.

   The first stage is what I have heard being called “Fresh Love”. It’s when the both of you just meet and all stars are flying in the air. Being in-love with someone is not been able to breath without that person. Wanting to give this person a hug and a kiss as soon as you see them.
   Desiring to buy your partner flowers. Going a whole day thinking about this person and counting down the hours until you get to see you love one again. In this stage all the physical contact between the two lovers are almost magical.

   A touch awakens your senses in a way that joy overcomes your whole body.

   A look into each other eyes because a journey never taken, fill with deep emotion and ardor beyond your wildest dreams.

   A hug might make you feel alive again, and without a desire to let go. Because as long as the two of you are intertwined, the world makes sense again and the two of you are one entity.

   A simple kiss will devour you with the red-hot fire of unadulterated passion and with the promise of an intimate interaction. For the duration of this interaction, the two bodies are fuse, turning into one body due to the flames of passion.

   This is what typically happens at the beginning of every relationship.

   In the other hand, when you reach the stage were you love someone, you have deep feeling for a person. All the feelings describe under the first stage are down to a minimal. But everything you do on a daily basis, you might do with your beloved on your mind. Although during this stage, other things are in your mind as well as your beloved.

   Typically this is what happens after the first stage of a relationship is over. The “Fresh Love” stage!

   But is it possible for a couple that one of them might enter the second stage but not the other?

   If this were true then, what would it mean in that relationship?

   Would this bring conflict to a relationship that once was perfect?


Please my dear blog; can you answer this love paradox?

When your soul speaks…

After reading this, if you know me this will definitely change you perception of me. If you don’t know me then you will probably get the wrong essence of me. This is because this blog is the written representation of my mental essence. The inner me! It is a collection of unspoken words.
It is kind of scary because when I read it, I see my soul.
I did not think that such a thing was possible.

How can a combination of consonants and vowels in a succession possibly give you even a glimpse of something as abstract as a human soul?

My deduction after reading this blog is that such a though is possible. It is incredible how anyone could put their soul on words.

There is a phrase which I came up with that I always say:

“Emotion is rational thinking worse enemy!”

This is so true because under any kind of emotion, your soul and not your brain is speaking. I am not trying to say that our soul is irrational. All I’m saying is that our soul is what dictates our feelings, when our brain works on trying to adjust us to reality. When someone says to you: "You are acting on impulse", all they are saying is that you are letting your soul do the thinking for your brain. Unfortunately your brain has to do the thinking for you, not your soul. Our soul is what makes us unique, and it is because of our souls that we are each individuals. But is not a good idea to let people hear the voice of our soul.

Every person has a pattern of perception that because of our soul such a pattern it’s different from human being to human being. This is why a color could be white for one person and black for another or the same bible means something for one religion, when it means something completely different for another religion.
When you let your soul speak you can easily get misunderstood. The problem is that it is healthy to let you soul speak. That’s why some of us have a therapist or a best friend. But when you don’t have a therapist or a best friend, it is things like dairies and blogs that make it better for us. Such things allow our soul to speak and let all our frustrations out. Some people are lucky to have very good friends that hear their problems and in some cases help them with their particular dilemmas.

I, on the other hand, even though I know good people that could hear my problems. They are either my family of her family. I could never let my soul speak to them because since they are family, they would take it the wrong way and cause additional problems for me. So as you can see I don’t have the luxury that many of you have and I have to rely on blogs to express my soul. Like I have said in a previous blog, I am glad that I found this blog and the readers of this blog. It is like finding a brand new friend to talk to and hear my predicaments.

Thank you very much for being my very own brand new best friend.

My dear blog!

The Anticipation To A Good Day

I have been so busy at the office today doing all of my reports. When I finish one report, four more reports came rolling down. I feel like I’m going a hundred miles a minute, but I guess that is cool because it makes my whole day go quicker.

It is a good thing my day is going fast since I have a date Saturday night. I already found a nanny to take care of my kids. I am planning to go for dinner and a movie. I haven’t figure out where we are going to eat but I would leave that to my date, being the gentleman that I am. I know she like seafood as well as I do, so we will probably go to one of the nice seafood restaurants in Naples. I am also letting her choose what movie she would like to see. I think she will like to see “A Cinderella Story.”

It’s kind of cool that I like movies that usually females fancy. My friends call them “Chick Flix”. Oh well, I really don’t care what they are call as long as the movie is a good one.

I am real excited about my date. I have the whole night planned out. We will go dine then watch a movie and when we come home, I’ll have candles and roses all over the house. I may have some Barry White’s music playing on my stereo system. I already bought the bottle of champagne so we can spend a little time just cuddling up on the sofa.

Just the two of us!

I just hope that the date goes as planned.
Let me not keep thinking about it.

I’m sure we will have a real good day.

A glimpse of my past

I finally got home from work and I am trying to relax. I don’t have a job tonight so I can relax. In the other hand, I could really use the money. But I guess that my wellbeing is on top of money.

You could not work in bad health!!

My mental state is a different matter all together. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not become crazy. I’m just mentally and emotionally numb.

Sometimes I ask myself, would this last for ever? Am I the only one in this planet that feels that way?
But them a little part of me says,

“Everything will be ok.”

I think everything started when my ex-wife left me. Just try to visualize ten years of marriage, where you thought everything was going wonderful. And then she disappears on you. Then you found out that she was cheating on you all this years, and she left you with two girls. I was out for two weeks. Thank God for my parents! I guess this would be the reason why I feel the way I feel today.
But I don’t want to feel this way. I want to feel again. I want to look at someone, feel the energy developing inside my heart and sense that this person is feeling the same way too.

I know; you don’t have to tell me. You are going to say that I am describing what happens during Fresh Love. That Fresh Love only happens when you just fell in love with someone. That Fresh Love does not last for ever and it will eventually die. Well, life is been cruel to me because this Fresh Love as you call it usually dies with my partners but it is still fresh on my heart as the first day we met.
Why is that? I don’t understand. You might think I am contradicting myself but truly I am not. When I talk about feeling again, I mean to feel for someone and to sense that that someone feels the same way for you.

This is not hard to understand, right?
Is it so difficult to sense when someone feels something for you?
Is this impossible?

Maybe it is, because obviously I do not count for experience, since I obviously did not feel anything coming from my ex-wife.

But I do know one thing for sure, and that is that live will go on, and this planet will keep turning.

Reaching your Goals

Ok, now I’m on my lunch time again, and so far I have accomplished a lot at work. I ate a sandwich made with butter and turkey meat, a Cherry Coke and some chips. I could not help but notice that I am extremely shaky as I looked at my hands grabbing the Coke can. Maybe is all the stress that I am under, maybe because I worked all day yesterday and went to bed late. Or maybe it was the two cups of coffee I had my sugar this morning. I know, I know, I should be cutting down on sugar. Everyone tells me that because my mother has diabetes. I don’t know; I just hope that it goes away soon. I’m just trying to keep my thoughts away from my matters at home.

I have been reading some blogs and this one in particular caught my attention. It was about reaching an unknown dream and in that quest not having the fear to the unknown.

Acquiring your dream without fear!

I have that phrase in my head now, because it has a very profound meaning. Being able to reach all of your dreams will take you on a quest. And on that quest you will not know what is going to cross your path. One think is for sure, you will encounter lots of obstacles. Some will be easy and some will be hart, but what would be the most important obstacles are those which are scary to us. Those are the obstacles that will deposit enough fear on a person in a way that such person has to deviate from the path to reach their goal. Some people, upon reaching this obstacle, panic and quit their quest, and in doing so never reach their goal. These are the quitters and they are the ones that usually regret the choices they had made in their lives.

I guess my message will be to set your site on your objective and if you go after it without fear, you will in turn reach your goal.

Thank you very much Linda for the inspiration.

This Morning at Cand3lasville

It’s the start of a new day and I am already at work. Yesterday I was so tire that I couldn’t write much. I was so tire because after work I got a computer job at a person’s house near my home. That was really nice since I needed the money. People don’t realize it but when you get a new job, your life becomes upside down for a while. At least for a month! You have to adjust to the new paydays and plan you bills accordantly. Next month I should be in a better position since the new job pays me better.

My Day has Ended

Ok, my day has just concluded but in a bad way. I got home and guess what I found more problems.

Why do I even bother?

Instead of dealing with it I should just act upon it. The problem is that by acting upon it would make me a quitter.

Another Day in Cand3lasville

It’s the start a brand new day and I feel like a hamster on a wheel. The good thing is that I like my new job. It’s real cool to be working for a software manufacturer. Well, I hardly see anyone at home anymore. She must like that since she no longer have to put up with me. But I do feel a little lonely.

I am so numb by now. Or maybe I’m just tired. Here I am at lunch in my office and I am looking forward to the time when I am home in front of my computer. How weird is that? I work on the computer all day and then I go home and I find relaxation in front of another computer. I don’t think I can explain that. Everyone tells me that I am crazy. They say that after a long day at work in front of the computer, the least they want to do is sit at home in front of another. There are two things that I find to be relaxing and they are computers and movies. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only weirdo in the face of this planet. Something cool did happen so far today. I found Morgan Webb’s Blog and e-mail address. That is so cool because I have been trying to get an autograph photo of her. When I get home tonight I’m going to read her blog, because here at work I barely have the time. I think I finally grasp the concept of a blog. And I am guessing my definition of one is online log of unspoken words. Wow, I came up with that one all by myself.

***cand3la pads himself on his back***

I have been look through other people’s blogs and it is kind of fun. I guess the blogs make the planet just a little small. You get the feeling that you have a lot in common with other people.

My Love Life

Why can I have a good relationship?
I am in general what I have read that a woman wants. I have a good job; I am dedicated, never cheated, and very romantic. I would always have flowers for them. Wake up in the morning and I would say I love you.
I think that my problem is that I have a high sex drive. It gets me upset because all the girls that I have dated at the beginning they tell me that they will never let me out of bed, and then it gets old. Then they tell me that all men are like that. Why don't they listen? My philosophy in life is to always tell the truth!!! What I say I mean. Eventually all my romance is gone from her side. The problem is that I still feel the same way I felt from the beginning of the relationship. So I am left high and dry. I fell like hugging and kissing my partner but I always get rejected.
I totally HATE rejection. For that I would stay single and approach all women. Is thinking this way wrong? I still have these feeling for her, but I cannot even touch her. Every time I mention about leaving, she says that she is trying to change. But I still feel this way. Why is life so complicated? I believe that if you really want something, then you would do what ever is necessary to obtain it, what ever that might be. If she really wants me, why she doesn't do what it takes to keep me? I fell like I'm about to give up. Even sex is not the same. Virtually non-existent.
I am so sexually frustrated that I can even listen to my favorite music when it contains sexual innuendos, or my favorite movies if they have sexual situations. Don’t get me wrong; it is not all about sex. I sometimes feel like I want to cuddle together and maybe watch a movie. Maybe go and walk the beach together. Touch her face. Look into her eyes and tell her how much I love her and the kiss her with all the passion that I have inside. Just that, the touch and the kiss; but when I approach her, she pulls away and tells me an excuse. I am so tire of excuses. With all the excuses I have heard, I could make a book.
You have no idea how many times I have sit a though, would it be better for us if I left? The other day she told me that I could have a sexual fling anytime I want to with anyone I please as long as she doesn’t know about it and I come home after. Me have a fling? Believe me that the though have crossed my mind. It’s a guy dream that the person they are with would give them the green light to have sex with anyone they would please. But even if I wanted, no woman out there would want to have sex with me after finding out that I am in a committed relationship (committed. I wonder about the meaning of the word). But my better judgment tells me that such actions would make me the person that I hate the most, A LIAR! A CHEATER! All of the sudden I could become my ex-wife, A CHEATER, A person who left me for another. We have such a good sex live together that in the past she had call me to have sex with her. I had always refuse because I find such a though, repulsive. I just hope that I could make the right decision or I will surely go insane. Can anyone out there understand? Or this is just me? I am pleased to be able to use this blog to vent out all my frustrations.

My Work Day

It's 6:40 p.m. and I'm at my second job. I never had two jobs in my live, so his feels wierd.
I'm kind of glad about my new job. I can't believe I'm getting double the pay as my previous job. I'm also glad I kept my previous job as a part time; I am really looking forward to having two paychecks. I do feel a little tired now but I usually make it up by Wednesday. I feel like a polar bear because I sleep from 5:30 p.m. until the next day.

The Beginning

I’m not quite sure what is a blog but I’m going to make an attempt on creating one. I know that this is somewhat related to a writing log or diary. Since I like writing then I guess I could like this.
 
Can someone help me define what a Blog is?